When Good Parents Cause Unintended Harm

Most of us try hard to be good parents, and are unaware that sometimes we cause subtle harm to our child.  It’s a kind of paradox, that in imagining that we do a great job, we cannot look at our contribution to the relationship, which the child may perceive as far from “great.”   A parent may be unable to listen to a child if it seems like an unbearable reflection of something not right about the parent. Sometimes parents begin to teach their children at an early age, without realizing it, that if anything about their parenting is questioned, it is tantamount to family treason.  Children become intimidated into believing that they are simply “bad”.  Once everyone buys into the characterization of a “bad” child, the only answer may seem to be medication for illness in the child, rather than what is more likely a relationship problem between the two.

It is important for families to get back on track.  Seek consultation with a board certified psychiatrist and child psychoanalyst. Such an individual in the Houston area is Penelope J. Hooks, M.D.  Dr. Hooks will address your family’s particular issues with personal care and concern.  Please give her a call to arrange an appointment at her office (713) 521-9087.